When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward. Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance. But when you don’t practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughts of revenge. It is the act of untying yourself from thoughts and feelings that bind you to the offense committed against you.
Forgiveness is the economy of the heart… forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits. ” Holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems. Forgiveness, on the other hand, offers numerous benefits, including: ? Lower blood pressure ?Stress reduction ?Lower heart rate ?Fewer depression symptoms ?Fewer anxiety symptoms ?Healthier relationships ?Improved psychological well-being •Without forgiveness there is no future •I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive.
Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one When you experience hurt or harm from someone’s actions or words, whether this is intended or not, you may begin experiencing negative feelings such as anger, confusion or sadness. Grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility take root when you dwell on hurtful events or situations, replaying them in your mind many times. But if you don’t deal with them quickly, they can grow bigger and more powerful. They may even begin to crowd out positive feelings.
Forgiveness can be very challenging. It may be particularly hard to forgive someone who doesn’t admit wrong. Keep in mind that the key benefits of forgiveness are for you. It may also be helpful to reflect on times you’ve hurt others and on those who have forgiven you. As you recall how you felt, it may help you to understand the position of the person who hurt you. •To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness Getting the other person to change their actions, behavior or words isn’t the point of forgiveness.
In fact, the other person may never change or apologize for the offense. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life — by bringing you more peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. What if you have wronged? Consider admitting the wrong you’ve done to those you’ve harmed, speaking of your sincere sorrow or regret, and specifically asking for forgiveness. Accept the fact that you — like everyone else — aren’t perfect. Accept yourself despite your faults. Admit your mistakes. Commit to treating others with compassion, empathy and respect.
We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies •“You can’t undo anything you’ve already done, but you can face up to it. You can tell the truth. You can seek forgiveness. And then let God do the rest. ” •We achieve inner health only through forgiveness – the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves Forgiveness means that you’ve decided not to let it keep festering inside. The freedom to be at peace in our own skins – that’s what forgiveness allows. We relinquish this freedom when we hold onto anger and resentment.
Enormous amounts of energy are wasted when we hold back our love, hold onto hate, and harbor acrimonious feelings. The only remedy is letting go, and being willing to forgive. Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies. ” •Humanity is never so beautiful as when praying for forgiveness, or else forgiving another •The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. •Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.